Note: What you are about to read was originally an eight page academic narrative I was asked to write for my capstone project for my MA in English. I was asked what my MA meant to me. Was it a stepping stone or was I completely satisfied with this accomplishment?
“You don’t have what it takes.” The academic advisor spewed at me as I meekly sat across from her. “I suggest you stick with retail; it will be best for everyone.” All she saw were the things that were supposed to exclude me from the world of higher education. She saw my failing grades, academic probation, and teenage motherhood. She saw only what was written on paper and placed me in a stereotype society claimed I should stay in. This advisor didn’t see the sleepless nights studying to get back into community college. She didn’t see the endless hours trying to make ends meet and the burning desire to further my education. She certainly did not see my past as an honors student who was rocked by a horrible situation. “Maybe it is you who doesn’t have what it takes to do your job and advise.” My mouth flicked her insults right back at her unable to contain itself. At that moment I knew, my academic journey wouldn’t end with an associate’s or even a bachelor’s. No, it was at that moment that I decided to get my Ph.D.
Eager for success, I switched from a Psychology degree to English. It wasn’t that I was no longer fascinated with psychology, but I knew I needed to pursue a degree that I was wildly passionate about, an area of study that felt more like talking with an old friend. Two and a half years after that fateful conversation, I had earned my bachelor’s summa cum laude, quit retail, began teaching at the middle school level, and immediately entered the English Master’s program. This was supposed to be a stepping-stone towards my Ph.D. Hopeful and determined, it became my life’s mission to overcome the hurdles secondary degrees offered.
Despite various university’s efforts for inclusion, the world of higher education is still not widely available to the working class- especially parents with financial responsibilities. We cannot sacrifice a paycheck and therefore cannot attend in-person classes. The English program was the only viable option for me because it was the only master’s program offered online that could benefit my career. It was the only option to widen my perspective in a field I was passionate about. Even though my preferred route of study was creative writing, it would have closed doors in my future. So, I set forward unwilling to allow restrictive course selection and degree options to deter me from pursuing the level of education I desperately wanted.
With doe eyes and an insatiable hunger for learning, my roster was filled with classes I had hoped would bring insight into my newfound profession. After all, they were the classes ASU insisted I take to earn such a coveted degree, there had to be some merit to them, right?
My first two classes were filled with assignments aimed at teaching Young Adult literature. It was clear we were being groomed to become professors because the content was never meant for my middle school readers and was barely appropriate for high schoolers. While being prepared to become a professor aligned with my future goals, these courses could not entertain practices appropriate for the middle school classes I was currently teaching. The topics on society and self-reflection were too intricate. The expectations were too high and there was no way for me to adequately scaffold them for my classroom. The novels we read were beautiful, fascinating, and incredible conversation starters, but my use of said novels ended on discussion boards. Bringing any of those topics into my classroom would send my student’s parents into a tizzy.
I performed well in both courses but could not help but feel that my work and experiences throughout those months were left looking for a place to be used in my world. After both courses were finished, I had a feeling welling up inside of me- this level of education was not meant for professionals like me. Still, I pressed forward toward my master’s still believing I would be bringing these skills to a college course one day. I was simply crossing the bridge towards my Ph.D. and the courses were the planks holding up my house of education.
With the stringent course requirements, I found myself exploring the ideas and perspectives ASU wanted me to study. There was less room for freedom than in my undergraduate program and I found myself longing for more choices and creativity. For a moment, I entertained the idea of switching to a Creative Writing program. Creative Writing professor jobs are few and to achieve my goal of becoming a professor, I needed to be open to the possibilities of teaching all types of writing or literature courses. Yet, my eyes stayed focused on the prize of a well-rounded and prestigious education.
Still, I felt myself slipping away from my core values and even further from the people I longed to engage with. My studies were supposed to find inclusive processes and thought-provoking findings. Instead, I felt that my studies were a riptide pulling me away from the public, my friends, and most importantly my family. Between navigating sleepless nights, early mornings, and juggling not only my homework but that of my children I trudged on with hopes of being an example to look up to. What I ended up teaching them was to run yourself ragged through improper work-life balance. While the thought crossed my mind to quit my job, it wasn’t an option because bills needed to be paid. For an even briefer moment, I thought about dropping out of my studies altogether. This also was not an option because deep down, I knew I had what it took to accomplish my goals.
I took four courses over the summer in a blind attempt to earn my stepping-stone and jump into my next program quickly. Two Linguistics courses, Spanish, and Shakespeare filled the nooks and crannies of my brain as I hurriedly tried to cram inspiration into each response I wrote. Tears were shed almost daily trying to prove to these professors that I was worthy of a positive response.
Ravenously, I examined the topics provided for me hoping to mold me into an academic intellect. For a moment, I believed that these courses would do that. I believed that these courses would make me a better person- a well-rounded and socially aware human. So, my eyes consumed every assignment given to me. I lapped up the directions each professor doled out. Like a good student, the one I had always wanted to be, I regurgitated the information exactly the way I was asked to no matter what the toll was on my mental health and family. I didn’t mind the sticky bile of information settling in my mouth. This newfound knowledge lingered on my tongue waiting to show itself in conversation at any given moment. It was something I could pride myself on. My memorization, test-taking skills, and analytical endeavors were becoming stronger. But for some reason, I didn’t feel like I was any smarter. The intellectual conversations happening over the discussion boards left me feeling inadequate. The professors stopped giving me accolades and I couldn’t help but feel as if despite my good grades, they too felt I didn’t have what it takes to be a serious scholar. Only a select few were understanding of my circus act as a mother, an educator, and a student.
Nevertheless, my journey continued. Hours upon hours, I anguished over analytical essays about what Shakespeare meant with his thick and wordy dialogue. What were his political standings? What was the hidden meaning behind his witty banter? How did the historical events that happened during his lifetime shape his works? How did his works shape literature today? While this was wildly fascinating to me, it became clear that nobody knew. Despite how much historians try to pinpoint each of his intentions, we are left with mere breadcrumbs of his life. My observations of Shakespeare’s contributions to literature led me back to my first choice in academics- psychology. His works portrayed many fascinating characters with deep undertones of psychological disorders and illnesses.
During a class focusing on fairytales in my undergraduate program, I stumbled upon the information that our fathers of psychology based many of their terms and observations on fairy tales. Many of the terms and classifications in literature come from Carl Jung’s attempt to utilize his findings in fairytales in his practice. Soon enough, I was focusing on connecting the dots of psychology to the literary pieces (Shakespeare and others) that were assigned to me.
Reigniting my passion for psychology and realizing how I could wed it with my lust for literature, I finally knew what I wanted to research and felt I had a solid grasp on what my thesis would be when I could take the glorious leap into my Ph.D. program. There is so much to be learned about psychology if we simply look deeper into literature.
For the first time, I felt as if I belonged in the elite world of academia because I finally had a focused thesis. I wanted to research. I wanted to understand. I especially wanted to bring attention to the mass discrepancy between psychology’s understanding of women’s mental health and the research that has been and is being done. We are still decades behind an equal understanding of men’s and women’s mental health because illnesses (both physical and mental) show up differently between genders. After this “aha” moment, all my papers began focusing on mental health and a woman’s experience. As someone who already was analyzing texts from a feminist perspective, it wasn’t difficult to supplement my analysis with sprinkles of psychology. My professors began expressing their delight when presented with my work. They said I was taking on a perspective and outlook they hadn’t seen before and urged me to pursue my Ph.D.
Unfortunately, I counted my chickens before the eggs hatched. Due to the nature of my studies and the subtle availability of online programs, I had mistakenly thought the same opportunities would be available to me at the Ph.D. level as well. Encouraged by my professors’ excitement, I began looking into the requirements of a Ph.D. program and intened on applying.
What I found was disheartening at best. Emails and phone calls to department heads were returned with the same response as the advisor I originally met with at Pima Community College at the beginning of my academic journey. If I was truly serious about my studies, I would commit to school full-time and quit my job. And that is when it hit me, the world of academia still is not inclusive. I truly don’t have what it takes because I don’t have the luxury of focusing on my academic endeavors full-time. It was becoming clear that this path was to lead me to an elite world. No matter how badly I wanted to wade into those waters, it simply is out of reach due to financial obligations and the responsibility of raising children.
It didn’t matter the long hours I had already put into my studies. Surely my juggling act of motherhood, a career, and school was a clear indication that I could juggle the responsibility and dedication needed to complete a Ph.D. Yet, academia won’t have it. If I can’t bend to the heavy and life-altering expectations, it simply didn’t matter how determined I am.
And it made me wonder, how many people out there would have their doctorate and create mind-blowing and awe-inspiring research if they had the financial means to complete such research? How inclusive can we say academia is if people leading day-to-day lives cannot pursue their dreams of higher education?
With this realization, I don’t know what my next step is. I do know that because my family cannot survive off one income, I now no longer have the opportunity to achieve my dream of becoming the highest educated person in my family. Due to financial obligations, I feel that I have let my family down. Most importantly, academia has let me down.
For a moment, I had hoped to use my Capstone course to begin my research on mental health and what we can learn about it in literature. Instead of diving into peer-reviewed journals about postpartum psychosis, depression, and ADHD and connecting them to the symptoms women express in their stories, I am writing yet another essay explaining the “perspective” I should have achieved. This journey has been difficult at best. I have lost sleep and forgotten important events in my children’s lives to achieve my goal of earning that coveted Ph.D. and maybe even teaching at the college level. Bedtimes sometimes meant kisses over a laptop as my children read themselves to sleep instead of warm snuggles and genuine “I love you’ s”. And for what? To be told I don’t have what it takes simply because I cannot sacrifice a livable wage?
I sat with this anger for an entire semester. There was some lollygagging when it came to assignments. There were fits of complaints in the middle of the night as I hurriedly tried to finish my reflections and analytical papers. And then I realized that this wasn’t the end for me. Whether or not I earn my Ph.D. doesn’t matter. It doesn’t define who I am. What degree I earn does not measure my intellect. It doesn’t matter what my life achievements are, I know my strengths, my weaknesses, and my true accomplishments. Will ending my academic career at the master’s level make it more difficult to achieve these goals of finding breakthroughs in literature? Yes. Will it make it more difficult for me to become a professor? Absolutely.
But if I have learned anything, I have learned that I can still hold onto curiosity. Being tied to an institution does not define my worth. Being part of a program or not, I can still research my questions and find answers. Doing it on my own will avoid any slant or bias my advisors would offer and it will give me the mobility to dive into the avenues that solely interest me.
For the first time in my life, I realized that I could jump through all the hoops this world has laid out for me and it still wouldn’t be enough. My self-worth and my intellect should never be associated with someone else’s expectations of who I should or should not be. And maybe, just like all the other dead ends I have found myself in, it just means another door is waiting for me. Because at the end of this program, I realized as of right now, there is no real place for me in the universe of higher academics simply because of my obligations to my family and community. I do not belong in the world I had always found comfort in, always sought to be accepted in and that just means that my work is not done. I will accomplish my goals one way or the other because I have what it takes.
P.S. I was marked down for my negative viewpoint on academia. I’ll let you decided what to feel with that information.